“Lil on Life” is an engaging podcast hosted by behavioral neuroscientist, health and safety professional, and ICF ACC certified coach Lilian Riad-Allen. She shares personal stories and insightful reflections on topics like purpose, imposter syndrome with a side of embarrassing stories. With authenticity and vulnerability, Lil shares a journey of self-discovery, emphasizing the importance of building a positive relationship with oneself and others. Join Lil for a thought-provoking exploration of life’s nuances, growth, and the pursuit of a purposeful existence.
S1 Ep1-3: Imposter Syndrome
Story: Hey and welcome to my first segment! It’s on imposter syndrome, which is exactly how I am feeling right now. Listen to me share stories of imposter syndrome from my life that bring the concept to life.
Concept: This segment is all about what some of the literature in this space tells us about imposter syndrome. Sprinkled with anecdotes to bring the point home.
Practice: Listen in for some practices you can integrate to notice and challenge your own imposter syndrome.
S1 Ep4-6: Goals
Story: Join Lil as she recounts a difficult walk home that changed everything. In this episode, Lil shares the start of her journey to discovering her purpose through cup filling goals, and making every moment count.
Concept: Concept: An introduction to cognitive distortions, specifically negativity bias, and how it impacts our interpretation of events, and how we can use the superpower of gratitude to: change our wiring, help us notice, and set, goals that serve us. Introduction of the Reticular Activating System and Neural Plasticity.
Practice: Make your own Personal Goal Scorecard using SAMHSA's 8 Dimensions of Wellness to create SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Time-bound) goals that lean into supporting your wellbeing. Because as SAMHSA says, "wellness is not the absence of illness".
Starting first by reflecting what in each dimension provides you with fulfilment, one can start to get curious about themselves while creating building block goals to create purpose-filled goals.
S1 Ep7-9: Embarrassing Stories
Story: Lil shares embarrassing stories featuring some special guests to share embarrassing stories, of her. An episode inspired by a reflection about creating a legacy of laughter, inspired by a deep longing, and appreciation for the beauty of a deeply missed voice.
Concept: Lil explores the concept of embracing a "yes and" vs. a "but" mindset as a means to counter negativity bias, and reflects on the benefits of intentionally working to slow down automatic thinking patterns as well as the practice of getting out of the head and into the body; perhaps taking a path less travelled with it's own sights to behold. Lil introduces the idea that we can lean into calming our nervous systems through habituation by naming, navigating, and nurturing our emotions. The segment concludes with a light-hearted anecdote and a reminder to find moments of joy and connection in everyday experiences.
Practice: In this episode, Lil guides a mini body scan practice. With a focus on breathing, Lil encourages listeners to find physical comfort. This involves systematically scanning the body for tension and releasing it with each breath. Lil prompts reflection of experiences, fostering self-compassion and understanding. The practice concludes with a gratitude towards ourselves and looks forward to the next.
S1 Ep10-12: Savoring
Story: In this episode Lil explores the transformative power of savoring through three heartwarming stories. In the first tale, we follow an industrious ant on its journey to bring a chip back to its ant family, revealing the beauty of appreciating life's simple pleasures. The second story delves into the profound bonds of friendship and the deep connection forged through moments of vulnerability, illustrating how savoring shared experiences enriches our lives. Lastly, Lil recounts a poignant moment marked by a significant promise.
Concept: In this episode, Lil introduces the concept of savoring—the practice of fully engaging with and appreciating the richness of life's experiences. Join Lil as she shines a light on the benefits of savoring, from enhancing gratitude and resilience to fostering deeper connections with ourselves and others.
Practice: In this episode, Lil guides us through practical techniques to lean into the art of savoring. From mindful awareness to savoring journals, learn new ways to use sensory exploration to celebrate everyday moments and achievements as a way to cultivate a deeper sense of gratitude and contentment.
S1 Ep13-15: Mango Moments (Gratefulness)
Story: In this delightful episode, Lil dishes out a few short stories that'll leave you smirking at the randomness of life. From moments that catch us by surprise to intentional gestures of support that warm the soul, each story is a testament to the magic of human connection. Join Lil as she shares a few of her misadventures with strangers and those who would become cherished lifelong relationships. It's a joyous celebration of laughter, and the little moments of kindness that brighten our days. Tune in and let the good vibes lift your spirits.
Concept: In this juicy episode, it's Team Apple vs. Team Mango as Lil unpacks the power of our thinking patterns. Whether you're having an 'apple' day or feeling like you're on the 'mango' side of life, join Lil as she explores how our automatic thinking patterns can lead us down unexpected paths. Discover the ways we can become aware of these patterns, shift our inner narratives, and reclaim our sense of empowerment. It's a ripe discussion filled with insights to help you navigate the twists and turns of your mindset journey. Tune in and choose your fruit wisely!
Practice: In this episode of "Lil on Life," Lil leads listeners through a reflective practice segment designed to enhance self-awareness and empowerment. Reflecting on the significance of perspective, Lil introduces the concept of "Team Apple" and "Team Mango" days to illustrate varying responses to life's challenges. Encouraging listeners to identify minor issues occupying their minds—Lil prompts reflection on associated thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations. By reframing narratives and focusing on observable facts, listeners cultivate agency and self-compassion. Lil shares personal insights on self-judgment, celebrating small steps towards empowerment and self-awareness. Tune in for practical guidance on navigating life's complexities with mindfulness and resilience.
S1 Ep16-18: Speaking Easy
Story: Lil shares a mix of personal stories focused on difficult conversations and interactions. Drawing from her experiences, Lil emphasizes the need for safe spaces and supportive listening spaces. Sharing a personal anecdote about receiving tough feedback from a friend, Lil acknowledges the transformative power of honest conversations and self-reflection. With empathy and wisdom, Lil reflects on the importance of human connection in navigating life's challenges.
Concept: In this segment, Lil from "Lil On Life" discusses the importance of holding space for difficult conversations and offers insights into effective practices for supporting others. Lil emphasizes the significance of self-awareness, encouraging listeners to recognize their own reactions and emotional states before engaging in tough discussions. They caution against the impulse to fix or minimize others' struggles and stress the value of active listening and validation. Lil underscores the need to respect personal boundaries and acknowledges the importance of self-care and aftercare following challenging conversations. They conclude by inviting listeners to engage with the podcast and express gratitude for their support, while also providing resources for those in crisis. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, Lil fosters an environment of empathy and understanding, encouraging listeners to navigate life's difficulties with compassion and authenticity.
Practice: Lil starts this practice with responses to listener questions focused around a topic we all face: setting boundaries during tough talks. From there, the focus of this episode is around creating strategies to support ourselves with concrete ways to go about getting support despite discomfort